Most folks are too busy to stop and sit with deep questions for very long.
We know what we have to do today. We know how many hours it will take to get that done. And typically, we have fewer hours than the tasks before us.
A good day, for most of us, is getting the top priorities on our list done without interruption or setback—string together a couple of those days and you feel like you’re on a roll.
The hardest job I know of in this world is being a working parent. There are myriad layers of top priorities here. Another hard role is a full time college student working at a low paying job to put themselves through school.
You know your life. You know your roles.
Do you like who you’re becoming in the midst of those?
You are becoming someone—in the midst of the roles you have and the decisions you are making, you are becoming a version of you right now.
And, truth be told, most people aren’t really sure if they like that version of themselves currently. We don’t think about it all that much. But we should.
Waiting for something to change isn’t the answer. But neither is leaving things to chance.
If we’re not getting the results we want in life, we must ask better questions.
Do you like who you’re becoming is a better question. It has two parts:
(A) Do you like yourself
(B) who are you becoming?
We are not the sum of our successes and failures in life. We become the sum of our decisions.
I work. I’m a husband, a parent, a grandparent, a son, a brother, a friend. I have rolls to play, hats to wear. So do you. A choice has to be made about who we want to become in the midst of all that we do.
I made a desperate decision some years ago. I came to the fork in the road and I took it. There were two roads that diverged and I took the one less travelled…
I believed that God would help me answer life’s deepest questions, including the one I’m posing today: Do you like who you’re becoming.
You and I – we were made to struggle with the deep questions. The world, however, would have us settle for lives of quiet comfort, distracted and complacent, focused on self-comfort, survival, success.
“Man does not simply exist but always decides what his existence will be, what he will become the next moment. By the same token, every human being has the freedom to change at any instant.”
The struggle is a place to grow, to learn and to then rise from. It is a place to learn and choose who we will become. In the struggle, we find our need for God and we find His willing and open heart.
I still get drawn into the tension of finding my self-worth based on how well I’m doing in the roles I play. I let the world around me squeeze me into it’s mold. That tension doesn’t fade, simply because I’ve decided to follow Christ.
But he enters the tension with me and helps me. He still reminds me that I’m but one decision away from things changing for the better. In those moments, where he is helping me, I find myself asking him for help, guidance and hope.
Sure – I’d rather be removed from the conflict. But hope is stronger than moments of pain.
So that is my prayer for us today. A prayer of hope.
Christ alone offers it. May we, in choosing him, experience it; Hope in all we do.